234 A simple question

A simple question 

During a recent visit to our home, our 8-year-old grandson asked us a simple question--are you lonely?

I guess the size of the house for two people may have prompted his question. We are still in the house where we raised his dad and aunt (our two children).

My immediate response was no. But on further reflection, I had to clarify my response and how my husband and I really feel.

We are not lonely in the true sense of the word. We have adjusted to a different life than we had when our house was full with our children and their friends who would visit often. We lived near the high school so our house was a gathering place. There was never a dull moment or a quiet time. Even college days brought house guests that we welcomed with open arms. 

Their absence conjures up memories and experiences we will never forget especially since we have remained in the same house. We certainly miss those days, but it has been a natural progression.

Both of our children have their own children and homes full of love and life. That is the way it is supposed to be. We are grateful for that and wish them all the love and fulfillment they can achieve. 

Of course, we miss them and think lovingly of those days gone by, but we would never want them to not progress on their own. We have always encouraged and promoted independence and self-reliance.

That doesn’t mean we aren’t there to celebrate every milestone of theirs and their children and help and assist in any way we can. Trips are taken monthly to visit those that live a state away and short local trips are on the calendar to help with pickups and deliveries. We relish every moment we can give to them and never respond negatively when asked to help

And we always appreciate any text or phone call to keep in touch and hear their dear, sweet voices.

So back to the question--are we lonely? I would say no but with the caveat I have explained. We miss those days and would not trade any of it. We are so grateful for their lives and hopeful for their futures. 

Sometimes it is jarring to think how fast we got to this stage of our lives. We implore all of you to enjoy and savor every moment you have together. 

So, during this holiday season, the three of us who share our blogs weekly with all of you offer to everyone sincere greetings for meaningful, happy holidays however celebrated.

Frances